FOR MOTHERS WITH BLACK CHILDREN

WOW ! What a time to be alive !!! I am conflicted with feelings of sorrow and liberation. So much of the current events break my heart to see. At the same time, I’ve been given the opportunity to scream how I feel from the rooftops. I am someone who supports and embodies black lives matter - every single day that I wake up. Being a black mother, educator, writer and woman is a DAILY protest. I want to provide comfort and a safe space for black mothers who feel overwhelmed or alone at this time.

Before our children even get here - we are thinking of ways to protect them. Before their innocent souls arrive, they are already in danger. From the moment we step foot in hospitals -we are compromised. We experience prejudice in spaces where we are supposed to be safe. We are forced into unnecessary c-sections and given more drugs than necessary. Our children are plotted against in the educational system. One of my biggest reasons for becoming a teacher is because black children deserve educators who look like them. THIS IS ESSENTIAL. If you are a black mother right now and you feel helpless, please know that all you need to do to make a difference is pour love into your children. Thats it !

Let your children know how beautiful and powerful their skin is. Get down on the ground with them and play. Get to know their tiny little interests and add value to their existence. I don’t think its beneficial to speak on black matters without offering solutions and a way of change.

If and when I have more children, I will see a doula and midwife of color. Our children are so valuable and deserve the best treatment from the very start. Energetically our children deserve more. Soon I will share more information about doulas in major cities so we can create more of a community around this.

Updated list of Doulas/Midwives : Crimson Fig Midwifery, Sakina Midwifery, Doula Viva Births, SuperMamma Birth Services, Roots Community Birth Center, Positive Perinatal NYC, Houston based : Sankofamama

Right now, I am spending time nurturing my family extra. I am taking my time making meals and creating memories even in a racial war and pandemic. I want to remind black mothers to keep hope alive. I want to remind black mothers that growth requires pain. As a people we are growing.

Black motherhood community : Mater Mea

Relatable mom podcasts to listen to : @goodmomsbadchoices

Positive/inspiring writer and mama on IG: @alex_elle

Positive black media on fashion/health/beauty/lifestyle : @alltheprettybirds / alltheprettybirds

Black educator : @valencia_valencia

BLACK GIRL MAGIC, unapologetic IG accounts to follow : @marjon_carlos, @s_heyink , @spicy.mayo, @meccajw, @rachel.cargle

I want black mothers to take this time to ground themselves and process information. One feeling we don’t have to feel is confusion. Take this time to connect with other black women, and connect each other to positive and helpful resources. Take this time to try new recipes and figure out ways to refresh life at this time. This is OUR TIME. Feel free to share experiences, words of encouragement or some concerns you may have. I am here to listen.