PHONE CALLS
Lately, Ive been thinking about the tools we use when we’re in distress. I’ve decided that our tools depend on our level of discomfort. Level one upset may mean you just need a nap. Level two upset perhaps a workout can fix things. But when I am really down in the dumps I pick up my phone. When I want to feel grounded, phone calls do the trick every time. I may call my Granny or my Dad, and something about the call brings solace - even if I never spoke of my issue or current obstacles. I think elders can feel grief and know how to reassure others out of this low place.
When I feel emotionally unorganized, a two hour conversation with my best friend brings clarity. The opportunity to get my thoughts out of my head and make sense of them is powerful. Having someone that will listen without judgement and offer perspective is a beautiful way out of self destruction.
I think there’s beauty in someones voice or conversation bringing you peace. I think there’s beauty in feeling better afterward because of them. I’ve been getting calls lately from dear people just checking in and it made me wonder if they were searching for comfort in me. Whether it be conscious or subconscious, speaking with someone who loves you is a very quick healing tool that I urge you to use. This isn’t about dumping your issues on others, but seeking the support that you truly deserve.